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A nighttime dream looks bright by light of day

The column "Find Your Buried Treasure" appears weekly in the Chanhassen (MN) Villager. This column was published on December 9, 2010. I had a weird dream the other night. I was talking with someone who looked like an NFL linebacker, but he was actually a basketball player. He said, “Tell your daughter that she’ll be alone a lot when she’s on the road. Make sure she’s prepared for that.” I told him it wouldn’t be a problem, because my daughter does a lot of work by computer and is used to being alone when she works. On the road, she’d have her laptop with her and that would keep her from getting lonely...

By |December 11th, 2010|Columns, Family|Comments Off on A nighttime dream looks bright by light of day

Symphony of the season gives us rich, beautiful music

The column "Find Your Buried Treasure" appears weekly in the Chanhassen (MN) Villager. This column was published on December 2, 2010. The alarm on my clock-radio went off the other morning just as the news was getting over and Christmas music was starting up again. The first song was “The Little Drummer Boy,” which has always been one of my favorite Christmas carols. Since I didn’t have any meetings or appointments for which I needed to hop up and race off to start the day, I stayed in bed long enough to enjoy the song. And because I had no other distractions, I noticed things I never really paid attention to before...

By |December 4th, 2010|Coaching, Columns, Holidays, Music/Singing, Values|Comments Off on Symphony of the season gives us rich, beautiful music

A moment of care is a moment to share

The column "Find Your Buried Treasure" appears weekly in the Chanhassen (MN) Villager. This column was published on November 25, 2010. It started with a last-minute cancellation, and ended with another one. But what happened in between was a gift, and Thanksgiving seems like the perfect time to acknowledge it. I had two meetings scheduled half an hour apart on a recent morning. I scheduled them both for a nearby café, and brought a book with me to read during the time in between. My first client had an emergency situation come up, and called to see if we could reschedule. After I got off the phone with her, I debated going home for a while, since I now had an hour and a half, rather than half an hour, till my next meeting. I decided not to sacrifice the time it would take to drive there and back. Instead I would just enjoy the extra reading time...

By |November 27th, 2010|Coaching, Columns, Values|Comments Off on A moment of care is a moment to share

Holiday dreams can brighten the season

The column "Find Your Buried Treasure" appears weekly in the Chanhassen (MN) Villager. This column was published on November 18, 2010. The snowstorm we had last weekend brought us face-to-face with winter weather. It also got me thinking about the upcoming holiday season, and the difficulties and stresses people often have during what should be a beautiful, spiritual and peaceful time of year. This holiday season I’m planning to incorporate what I’ve learned from Dream Coaching – both in being coached and in coaching others – that I know will help me to eliminate much of the seasonal stress and to enjoy the Christmas of my dreams. I’m sharing a few of the practices in case you’d like to try them as well...

By |November 20th, 2010|Coaching, Columns, Holidays, Values|Comments Off on Holiday dreams can brighten the season

A hope for healing comes from an Oprah episode

The column "Find Your Buried Treasure" appears weekly in the Chanhassen (MN) Villager. This column was published on November 11, 2010. A friend of mine was on Oprah last Friday. He wasn’t one of the people up on stage being interviewed, but he was one of two hundred men flown in to Chicago by the show’s producers to be part of the studio audience in an episode about male sexual assault. Everyone in the audience had been molested as a child, and the Oprah episode opened with a powerful image of the men holding up photos of themselves at the age when their abuse took place or began...

By |November 14th, 2010|Columns|Comments Off on A hope for healing comes from an Oprah episode

Multiple incentives increase success for many

The column "Find Your Buried Treasure" appears weekly in the Chanhassen (MN) Villager. This column was published on November 4, 2010. Although newspapers are often filled with bad news, I saw two items recently – totally unrelated to each other but with a few things in common – that really got me excited. They gave me hope and faith in what people can accomplish when they set their minds on positive achievements, when they’re working toward something that benefits others as well as themselves, and when they have the right motivation...

By |November 7th, 2010|Accountability, Columns|Comments Off on Multiple incentives increase success for many

A question to ask – for then and now

The column "Find Your Buried Treasure" appears weekly in the Chanhassen (MN) Villager. This column was published on October 28, 2010. If you knew then what you know now, what would you have done differently? That’s the question that was given during the Table Topics Contest at the Toastmasters Conference I attended last weekend. In Table Topics, the contestants are brought into the room one at a time. They are asked the question, and must immediately give a one-to-two-minute answer. The judges are looking at technical elements such as speech development, language and delivery. The audience members are looking for a thoughtful, entertaining and memorable response. And some, like me, can’t help but think about how we would respond if we were up on stage answering the question...

By |October 30th, 2010|Columns, Toastmasters|Comments Off on A question to ask – for then and now

Simple advice makes a powerful impact

The column "Find Your Buried Treasure" appears weekly in the Chanhassen (MN) Villager. This column was published on October 21, 2010. Every so often I come across some deceptively-simple advice. It is condensed to just a few simple words, but could replace volumes that have been written on the subject. One example is the five-word directive to “Eat less, exercise more, repeat,” which could replace thousands of books about how to lose weight. Last week I heard another five-word piece of advice that could benefit many people, myself included. It came from a client who was working through an “assignment” I had given him that was designed to process, complete, and eliminate the type of excess baggage, clutter, and unfinished business that many of us carry around with us. It can be physical, mental, or emotional, and consists of things that haunt us or nag at us, and that take up space in our homes and our heads. And because it can weigh us down or keep us anchored to the past, it also keeps us from moving forward on our dreams and goals. At the very least, it slows us down more than we realize...

By |October 22nd, 2010|Accountability, Coaching, Columns|Comments Off on Simple advice makes a powerful impact

Family events form a smooth, seamless weekend

The column "Find Your Buried Treasure" appears weekly in the Chanhassen (MN) Villager. This column was published on October 14, 2010. I drove down to Chicago with my sister last Friday, so we could drive up to Milwaukee on Saturday for a family wedding. After the wedding and luncheon, we drove back to Chicago so my sister could attend her high school reunion and I could spend some time with my dad. On Sunday, we had a birthday party for our nephew – who turned 13 this week – and for three other relatives whose birthdays have already passed, but recently enough that we could still get away with having a party for them as long as we were in the area. Then on Monday we drove back home to Minneapolis...

By |October 15th, 2010|Columns, Family, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Family events form a smooth, seamless weekend

Focused fundraising highlights many needs

The column "Find Your Buried Treasure" appears weekly in the Chanhassen (MN) Villager. This column was published on October 7, 2010. I read an article in the StarTribune last week about foundations and corporations that have started to redirect more of their resources to one specific issue, rather than giving lesser amounts to a greater number of causes. This is good news, certainly, for the issues and conditions that are receiving greater attention and more resources. But it’s disastrous for those that will now be losing out on the funding they would otherwise have received...

By |October 8th, 2010|Columns, Values|Comments Off on Focused fundraising highlights many needs